Being comfortable with being shy

There's umpteen books and articles on how shy people can be less shy. I cannot comment on them individually. However, it occured to me yesterday that perhaps we could discuss a different perspective.

What actually is wrong with being shy? Not a lot, really... as long as you aren't retreating from life, avoiding the things you desire to do, because of that feeling of awkwardness and discomfort. And, as long as you are sharing your true thoughts and feelings with those you care about, and care for you.

Shy people are wired as introverts. Introverts can do extraverted things, but, they need to 'rest' afterwards. Extraverts get energy from doing extraverted things, introverts use up energy doing extraverted things and need to recharge. Introverts tend to need more silence, more alone time. It doesn't mean they are anti-social, as long as they don't 'retreat' in company.

Shy people have an aversion to being put on the spot. They prefer a gentle appoach, time to reflect, and be energized for action... which is fine as long as they don't procrastinate for too long.

That's my brilliant thought for today. Make any sense? I don't know *chuckles* it's just what came to mind.


3 comments:

Mahesh Raghunandan said...

Great thought indeed! I'm an introvert by nature and I KNOW the people around me would disagree because of how I am on stage while performing. Nonetheless, there is nothing wrong in being shy. It kind of gives you your own space to be in and to play around with your thoughts. It will force you to stay with yourself and sort things out rather than hide it with the nonsense usuals of the society.

Screamie Birds said...

I just read an interesting book on being an Introvert in today's world. And it said that performing works for an introvert because it's a contained event. You get on stage and you know what you're going to do. It also pointed out that being shy and being an introvert are 2 different things. You could be a shy introvert. But I agree - what's wrong with being shy? It's just that most people in the world are extroverts and they don't understand introverts or shy people. Anyway, I just found your blog and I love it because I'm an introvert and I'm sometimes shy.

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